How to Gain Clarity and See New Opportunities

A couple of weeks ago I had a great conversation with a friend about finding the clarity to see new opportunities.  Thinking back to when I made my decision to leave my corporate career, I really could not have ever imagined the journey that I have been on for the last four years.  Although I had my reasons for leaving and some sort of plan of what I might do, I was not even close to what actually happened.

During that conversation two weeks ago I realized that it is quite hard to see what’s possible when your mind is preoccupied with distractions (i.e. your current circumstance or situation, related stress, etc.).  It’s almost as if when it comes to our mental capacity, we only have so much “screen space.”  It’s like we have a 13″ – there’s only so much you can fit in it.

So let’s look at few aspects of this analogy and how it compares to finding clarity.

When you are in a situation or circumstance that does not inspire you or just doesn’t make you happy, your screen fills up with stress, dissatisfaction, thoughts of getting out, and eventually fear of making a change for the better.  Fear because we are hard-wired to fear change and the unknown.  While some may seem more spontaneous and risky in their behavior, they too experience fear – the difference is they have learned to control, embrace, and convert it to enthusiasm and positive curiosity.

When your 13″ screen is all filled up, you simply cannot see opportunities and possibilities – even the ones right in front of you. It feels as if there may not be anything waiting on the other side if you take the plunge.  By the way, this can go for career, relationship, and/or personal circumstances.  However, what I found after I left my career circumstance was that all of a sudden I had new ideas, I was having different conversations, and I considered new possibilities (some out of necessity so that I could earn a living).  It’s as if leaving my career at the time closed all the open windows on my 13″ screen, rebooted my computer, and left me with a blank slate.  I was open to anything and everything.

Here’s where the second aspect of the analogy comes in.  Once my screen was free to have new windows open in it, it was as if my screen got upgraded to 15, then 16, then 17″.  When the negative stress and feelings of fear went away, I felt like more was possible than I had ever thought before.  All of a sudden I was meeting new like-minded people with their own awesome stories and ideas.  And this is when things got really good.  As I explored my own strengths and interests, now I felt like I was taking on additional screens.  One screen was for my passion in education, another screen for student leadership development, and yet another for neuropsychology.  It’s as if I was now running multiple apps that all interface with each other on multiple screens.  Everything was coming together and connecting in ways I never thought possible.

Clarity on multiple screens!

Operating with more apps and on more screens, my other capacities began to upgrade as well.  I felt happier, stronger, healthier, more intelligent, more passionate, more outgoing, etc.  Today, four years later, I see much clearer than ever before.  Here’s the best part though, I haven’t even reached full clarity and I don’t know if I ever will.  However, every year, every month, every day I feel like I have just a little more clarity than I did before.

More apps!

If you are in a circumstance that isn’t working for you, consider finding some clarity.  It won’t come from staying in the bad situation – even if you know all of this now.  The clarity can only come when close all the negative windows on your screen and start fresh again.

Maybe it’s time for a reboot in your life.

New Experience #5 – Reading The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho

The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho

A few weekends ago, I read The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho for the first time.  I had it on my shelf for a little over three years.  Several friends had read it and raved about the book.   Two weeks ago, one friend suggested that it was a timely read for me given my current path and position in this grand journey we call life.

Taking that most recent advice to read it, I drove to Starbucks one evening and read it.  I could not put it down and even ignored my hunger to finish it.  The story really spoke to me.  The journey that Santiago embarks on in pursuit of his Personal Legend (i.e. happiness and true calling) is one that I can currently relate to.  Almost four years ago, I left my flock of sheep (my corporate career) in pursuit of my true calling.  It was a difficult decision and one that I felt I simply could not actually make.  Just like Santiago, I struggled with the decision and found ways to convince myself that my heart was simply wrong and that all of the signs pointing me in a different direction were misguided.  Continue reading

Seize, Appreciate, and Understand “The Way” of Your Life

I just got home from watching an advanced screening of “The Way” (@theWaytheMovie) by Emilio Estevez, starring Martin Sheen.  The movie, which opens this Friday, October 7, highlights the journey of Martin Sheen’s character through parts of Spain in his attempt to realize his son’s goal.  His son, played by Emilio Estevez, died while beginning the journey to the Cathedral of Santiago de Compostela known as “The Way of St. James.”  Throughout the journey, Sheen’s character is enriched by a variety of experiences and people he encounters along “The Way.”

This movie made me think about my own journey and the journey we are all on.  Watching this movie might make us think we need a dramatic pilgrimage like this for it to truly deserve the designation of a “journey” but that seriously undermines our own lives.  Even in the movie, it isn’t just about “The Way.”  [subtle spoiler alert] The characters ultimately realize it wasn’t about what they set out to do with their respective journeys.  It was about a way of life.  It is about how we choose to live each day.  Whether and how we appreciate the distinct experiences and people that enter and leave our lives, for better or worse. Continue reading

Journey versus Destination

A little over three years ago I left my corporate career in pursuit of a new path.  At the time I wasn’t sure of the destination and even today I am not quite sure.  Some might argue that is reason for concern and I would partially agree.  At times, I get a little concerned.  Perhaps those are my old preferences for structure and stability making their occasional uprising.  However, during some of the most challenging times of my masters programs I was asked by friends how things are going.  I answered, crazy busy.  So much work with school, consulting, coaching, graduate assistant position, etc.  But it hit me right then that, I’m happy.  I love everything I’m doing.  I’m enjoying every bit of it.

Clearly, at that point, I had not even completed my masters degrees, so at least we can agree I had not yet arrived at that destination.  That’s when I realized, it’s all about the journey.  It felt great when I received both masters degrees, but that was for a moment.  The journey lasted much longer than that moment.  Ultimately, I enjoyed both the journey and the milestone destination.

Now I am embarking on carving out a new career for myself.  Perhaps I should say, a new path.  Career sounds too work related.  I want my path to be about personal and professional aspirations.  A lifestyle business.  When I put it this way, the emphasis isn’t on the destination, as I have not even figured that out, but rather on the journey.  Wherever I end up will be fine with me, so long as I enjoy the journey.

Think about your own life.  What’s the journey like?  Do you know the destination?

Make sure you are making the most of the journey…it will eventually become what you look back on when you reflect on your life.  The milestone destinations will be important and special, but the real stories come from your journey.

Safe travels!