Growing up I was always told to keep my eye on the prize (my goals). It made sense, so I didn’t really question it. As I got older I could still see the value in the statement. Goals are important; they give us a direction and destination to pursue.
However, earlier this year I began to realize that maybe my eye shouldn’t be focused too intensely on the prize. Perhaps I should focus it more on my efforts and actions. Now, I am not saying to forget the prize (goals), what I mean is that once you know what the goal is, you don’t need to focus on it so much. For instance, if you want to be a lawyer, you don’t need to remind yourself everyday that you want to be a lawyer. If you are enrolled in and attending law school, you have probably already internalized that goal. Your proverbial “eye” should instead be on the actions and efforts that will get you there because ultimately, that is the only thing within your control. In fact, your goal could become somewhat distracting in a negative way. By focusing on it a lot, it feels as if you have more to lose with each setback and there will be setbacks. This causes an unnecessary distraction that can be avoided.
The efforts and actions represent the journey and becoming a lawyer represents the destination. Given that we spend most of our time on the journey versus the destination, it makes sense that we shift most of our focus to where we spend the most time. If we do that, we can dedicate most of our energy to the efforts and actions that culminate into the goal.
This doesn’t just apply to careers; this applies to relationships, athletics, personal goals, etc. Focusing on what is outside of our control creates unnecessary frustration whereas focusing on what is within our control can liberate us from frustrating levels of disappointment. Continue reading